Loneliness is a devil that will always overshadow Indian men. No matter how happy Indian men try to be this ubiquitous and invisible devil will always try to make our lives miserable.
I myself have fought my own battles and have to overcome loneliness.Life in India is not easy for single people especially when you are living away from your family in a big metro city filled with unfriendly people.India has been equally indifferent to single Indian men, our single status bars us from attending many functions organized by close friends and colleagues. A feeling of being left out or being segregated seeps into us.
I have seen many single Indian men who pick up bad habits and get addicted to vices like drugs, alcohol, smoking, prostitutes and a lot more. Loneliness, depression and a feeling of being left out can have terrible consequences on one's psyche.Believe me, I have gone through my share of loneliness, however I chose to lead a good life without any vices of addiction.In this blog spot, I will share the wisdom gained through my own experiences.
First of all get a yearly diary and start journaling your daily experiences, feelings, emotions, habits and achievements. Day by day you will get an opportunity to introspect yourself. This one small but important activity will have a dramatic improvement on your personality.
Avoid all those places that remind you about being a single miserable loner.Stop attending marriage functions and social gatherings, refrain from visiting pubs and malls.I may sound cynical but the truth is that these people remind your being single and leaves you depressed.
Join a gym or a sports club, start practicing to run a marathon. Physical activity is a great stress buster. You will feel good after your workout.
Get into reading. I mean serious reading. Subscribe 2-3 newspapers per day and read at least 5-6 newspapers on Sundays. Try reading all editorials, opinions and news analysis. Over a few months you will become a knowledge bank on current affairs. Start reading books, any genre, anything that you find interesting. Reads books on classic literature or may I suggest the list called" 100 books to read before you die". Buy a kindle e-book reader, download free e-books from the internet and copy it into your kindle. This will make your reading even more interesting.
Start watching English movies and American television series.With time you will develop interest in the same and will try to watch as many series as you can.
Start backpacking across India and the world, go live in youth hostels, meet fellow backpackers and expand your social circle.You will be amazed at the wonders that backpacking will do to your personality.
I can go around writing a lot more but would like to end my post here. This is your life. You can choose to be a happy single or a miserable single.You will have to fight and overcome the devil of loneliness.The more you work on developing your self and creative engagement, the better you will get in overcoming loneliness.Never allow loneliness to get to you. Go ahead and live your life.
Wish you all the best!!!!!
This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day and promise to be back with a lot more.
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