Tuesday, June 20, 2017

Indian society is equally intolerant of free spirited single Indian men-Bhaveen Sheth DOTSIM

Sometime back , I read an article which spoke on an extreme level of intolerance of the Indian society towards free spirited single Indian women.However it failed to mention on an equal level or even more intolerance directed towards free spirited single Indian men.

Our society has never accepted the so called single status of people and has always detested people who have chosen to live a single life.While single Indian women are detested for not getting married and giving birth to a child, single Indian men are hated for not getting married, settling down and living a decent family life. Single Indian men are often accused of being vagabounds.

Indian society is made up of various likes and dislikes, at times it contradicts its very own structure,foundation and values.

Tolerance towards single Indian men especially those who are free spirited and live a happy life is extremely limited. In India, you won't find men who are single, somehow they get married, those who are not married are in the process of being hitched. I can't vouch the same for the single Indian women. Men who stay single out of their own choice face  lots of criticism and taunts.The society blacklists and debars them.Limited people will associate with them, their very existence is a source of criticism.

Single free spirited men are seen as a threat to the normal order of the Indian society.Since childhood we have been indoctrinated into following the routine protocol of life, you know, getting a good education, getting a job, getting married, settling down and having children.So what happens when some Indian men stay single out of their own choice and challenge this society order?They are certainly bound to become a source of envy and hatred.

It takes a lot of strength, courage and resilience for  Indian men to remain single.The decision to stay single is itself a difficult one to make.Once you start enjoying your own company and start living your life, you draw the attention of other people, free spirited single Indian men can do a lot of things that their married counterparts cannot.With no responsibilities over us , we are eagles soaring high in the skies.By staying single we disturb the natural order of the society hence we are disliked, we are branded irresponsible as we don not undertake the responsibilities of a family and fatherhood.No one is willing to accept the fact that we are pursuing our own interest at the cost of sacrificing our married life.

Our lifestyle is a big question mark for many. Most people think that we boose, take drugs, watch pronograpic movies,womanize and live a shabby life, that is certainly not the case. Now we cannot go around justifying our existence, can we? Remaining single allows us to pursue the activities of our own interests, we are more content with our lives compared to our married peers.Many single Indian men take a step further to take good care of themselves, age gracefully, become voracious readers and wonderful conversationalists.These men shine out, so they get hated, single men also do not have the financial woes that married folks have, no home loans, no car loans, no school and college fees to pay. Thirties and forties are a bliss for the single Indian men. So now tell me , why won't the single guys be hated.

Indian society will always remain intolerant, it does not accept the minority or diverse people.We often see its hatred directed towards its religious minorities , low castes, dark skinned people, north east Indians, the LTGB community , widows, divorcees and singles. Ohhh and not to forget the hatred towards the non-vegetarian eaters and those who exercise their freedom of speech.

We the single Indian men are free spirited souls, we have chosen this life, we don't need confirmation from idiotic and stupid married Indian men who claim to be representing the society, we don't need any advice and we don't want help.If the society hates, so be it. Who and what is the Indian society? It is made up of four people who will always have something critical to say no matter what you do.

The society is never going to accept us as we have violated its norms, rules and laws and we don't need its acceptance either.Our married peers will always have something to say. What you will eventually carry to your death bed are memories and experiences, do your best to make them look good.Looking back it is these memories that will bring a smile on your face. So go ahead and life your free spirited life without bothering about others.

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day and promise to be back with a lot more.

BHAVEEN SHETH

Friday, June 16, 2017

The good Indian woman is dead-Bhaveen Sheth DOTSIM

In this writeup, Bhaveen Sheth , the single Indian man writes an obituary for the good Indian woman, he honestly pays a tribute to all the good things she did for her family and the society.She is one of those nameless and faceless woman who has never been appreciated. In this write up I put in my thoughts for her appreciation and adulation.




The dawn of the 21st century has been difficult for the Indian society. In the last two decades we have seen a rapid transformation on the side of the Indian women, but this transformation has been for the worse,We get to seen a lot of arm chair feminists, pseudo feminists, middle class Indian princesses and of course feminazis. It is only after dealing with such women does one realize the importance and the relevance of good Indian women.They were the women who were there in our father's and grandfather's times, they were the real women of substance, their feminine presence and charm was wonderful, their demeanor and grace commanded respect, they converted simple houses into wonderful homes, what wonderful women they were.

They too used to be ambitious but they chose to put the needs and requirements of the family before theirs.They worked hard in bringing up a family, raising children and maintaining strong family bonds.They did all the housework without cribbing or complaining, they sat down and tutored their children, cooked meals and served it to their husbands and gave them good company.They were certainly not materialistic, small things made them happy, seeing their family happy brought joy to them. They did not get sucked into this wave of feminism. Some of them worked in offices and institutions and yet did not neglect their families.After work they would go home, cook and prepare for the next day. 

They were cost conscious as they would even save a small penny for the future.Narcissism and self obsession was never a part of their personality trait.Guests were always entertained at home and these women would make it a point to play the role of good hostesses without being asked for.Their cooking skills were exemplary, each woman was a master cook in her own way.Their speeches and conversations were wonderful, never did they use abusive language filled with expletives and profanities.They took care of the elders and took up the role of dutiful daughters. They were givers of love and affection.Some of these women were not educated but they were extremely skillful and street smart. All of them were wonderful in their own way.They were the epitome of a wonderful family and a pillar of the Indian society. Today we miss them badly, these women no longer exist, at best they are an endangered species and at worse they are extinct.

As I come to the end of this post , I clearly state that we are now seeing a new toxic species of Indian women who have been indoctrinated into the wrong ideas of feminism. These women will not cook, they will not clean, and they will not take care of their homes.All they will do is study bullshit educational courses, get worthless degrees that have no employment value, undertake jobs that are boring and miserable and claim that they are the strong empowered Indian women. They will spend their entire salaries on beautifying themselves.They are too self centred,too self obsessed and narcissistic.Maturity has never dawned upon them.To tell you the truth, no one wants them, no man wants them as a wife, no parent want them as a daughter, no one wants them as a daughter in law.These women have become unwanted even in their homes Their parents see them as an unwanted burden. Day by day their(parents) worry rises , after all ,which decent man would like to marry such a woman. 

One will find scores of such women  in India mostly in their 30's and 40's who are still single and miserable.And if any of you women belonging to this category are reading this post , I suggest that you have a good look at yourself and what you really are. A good Indian woman in spite of all her imperfections is always desired.Women of your kind will always be considered unwanted.This is the real truth of many Indian women of today's times.

Ending this post, I feel sad that our society has fallen to such miserable times. As Indian men we miss the good Indian women.

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day and promise to be back with a lot more.

BHAVEEN SHETH