Browsing through the facebook profile of a person, I came across this video. It was heart wrenching when I watched it and it did bring tears in my eyes.
I dedicate this video to all men of this great country who fight a battle every day, a battle for themselves and their families, I salute the hard work done , the difficulties faced and pain suffered on a daily basis by majority of the Indian men just in order to fit in to the so called norms of the Indian Society.
Please watch this video in the link below:
It is sad, really sad, that the entire media in this country focuses on women's empowerment, women's upliftment and women's safety.
No one ever focuses on the problems that Indian men have to go through, be it in India or abroad.
Our society at times is really strange. Everyone is made to sacrifice something or the other in order to meet the so called material expectations of the society.
From times immemorial , men in the Indian society have been asked to take responsibilities as a father, brother or son. While the women live within the protective confines of their homes, it is the men who go out and face all kinds of difficulties. Yes, I understand that times have changed and now even the women have started stepping out, but still things don't change.
In the short documentary pasted above, we can see that men , especially from northern India (Punjab, precisely) come to the United Kingdom and do menial jobs in order to make a living.
We see how they live in shabby conditions, how they have to surive everyday in order to make a living, their frustration, depresssion, difficulties and what not. I had tears in my eyes after watching this short documentary clip.
And even after facing so many difficulties, no one, not even their own families are able to understand their problems. Their families feel that the sons are living a good life and earning salaries in pounds. These men are expected to send remittances back home amounting to more that one lakh Indian rupees. If they send a lesser amount they are questioned on the same.
These men are often criticized that they are not making enough progress by their very own families, they are often compared with neighbors and relatives and told that other people are moving ahead in life in terms of renovation of a house, acquiring a new car and other materialistic things. These men are criticized in spite of what all they are going through.
The worst part is that these poor men find no solace in their suffering, no shoulder to cry on. They are in an foreign country with no one to help them.
How many times have we as men been compared with our relatives and friends. Comparison, comparison on marks in school, over hobbies and skills, over college grades, over professional courses undertaken, over careers chosen, over jobs, salaries, marriages, acquiring of fair and beautiful wives. The cycle keeps going on and on.
The taunts that a lot of men are subjected to is just humiliating. We are not respected for being ourselves, we are not respected for the aptitudes and skills we possess.
A graphic designer who loves his job and is earning a good salary in India is compared with some fellow who is working in USA or UK, mind you just working out there. No one really knows what kind of job he is doing and with how much difficulty is the person merely surviving in a foreign country. But our graphic designer friend who has a steady job, promising growth, good salary is criticized because he stayed back in India. I ask simple question, "How does going and working abroad make you a success story"??? Is living a happy and content life in India a sin????
And how many men end up becoming economic slaves?? Just to keep their parents, wives and children happy????? How many men have to take up careers in which they have no interest??? How many men have to do pathetic jobs just because it helps in paying monthly EMI's and bamk loans or to keep that fair and beautiful trophy wife happy?? How many competent and talented men have to work under incompetent and mediocre bosses, just because they have no other choice???
Our family and our society makes us , the Indian men , economic slaves. Men are required to take up responsibilities, it is always the men. They have to be obedient sons, they have to be the walking stick of their old parents, they have to get their sisters married, they have to keep their wives and children happy. Looks like the Indian men do not have the privilege of having a life of their own.
And my dear friends, this is the reality. Some of you may not agree with me on the same. But for those of you who are single and are reading my blog post, ask yourself. How many times have you been compared with your friends and relatives who are now married and have children??? How many times you have been taunted??? Statements like " Sharma's son who is two years younger to you got married last week, he got such a beautiful and fair looking wife" " Rahul made his parent s happy by making them grandparents and you have not even got married, will you be able to give us the happiness that Rahul gave his parents"!!!!
This is the reality my friends, they reality that the Indian society often denies under the cloak of family responsibility. After you have finished reading this blog post, I recommend that you watch the video clip, once more. You will realize that my words and statements do make sense.
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